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Speak less than it is necessary!

 


Often, we are engrossed in a debate where emotions take over the rationality of the usage of words. You forget that silence at times is the best antidote to increased conflict.

Today in the office my boss was questioning the drafting skills of a junior who committed an avoidable error on the draft. The English language, apart from Hindi, is the main medium of correspondence in central ministries. You need to be well versed in either of these to be able to conduct the official work. All juniors are supposed to put up drafts in the language of the correspondence.

But the junior was adamant in defending himself on why it was not his fault that the mistake happened. Boss further questioned each of his reasoning. He kept on giving witless responses. Finally, he ended up embarrassing himself.

What I learned from another story heard from P.B. today was that it is better to own up to your mistake than to defend it. He is true to his word as he practices it in real life too. I have seen him accept his mistakes and not give any silly rationale to cover up his shortcomings.

Thus, speak less than what is required. One- it will cut short unnecessary bullshit; two- it will give you a chance to learn more by listening more; three- you will be respected for your silence and be treated as a person of few but wise words.

What will happen to my Bar?

I am now sober for more than 4 months. I have no plans to stop being sober in the near future. It is said that removing the source of addiction can help you fight it. The first thing thus to ward off drinking is to remove the bottles from your home. If you want to quit smoking, not keeping cigarette packs at home helps.

For me, it was not required. I had a strong resolve to not look back till I had become the person I wanted to be. I was not addicted to drinking and only drank occasionally. But when I did, I would not stop easily. This created challenges for me emotionally and physically.

Now that I have gone sober, I often think about my bar. I have curated it over the years based on the parties we had at home. I have half-used bottles of different liquor in the bar. I think my friends can have them whenever they visit. I am even allowing them to take home my unopened bottles. But I will not allow them to take away my wine glasses, whiskey glasses, and shot glasses. They may come in handy in the future while hosting friends who enjoy drinks.

Exercise

Strength: Glute Day.



Rehab: Nothing today.

Cardio:  Running (Zone 2-3 Training)

0 mins for the Day. 


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