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Daily Journal of Life 14.05.23


 

Obsessions of Fair Skin and my tryst with It

Have you seen channels like Naaptol or Home Shop 18? These are the channels selling products with an aggressive pitch centered on cheap and quality products. Over the years these channels have evolved in putting up better content and selling better products but there is still a sea of useless products being pushed down the throats of gullible customers.

I remember seeing these long infomercials for the first time on TV around 20 years back. It was the time when I was in school and seeing these ads I believed whatever they presented on TV. I vividly remember the most popular infomercial/commercial of a product named “Roop Amrit” - Roop ka Amrit, literally translated as a Nector for Beauty.

What it claimed to do was to make you at least 4 tones fairer. It was hypnotizing to see the ad as everything about the ad was crafted artfully. The voiceover was a deep-pitched speech that hooked you to the screen accentuated by the visuals that you could hardly take your eyes off. The subjects of the ads used to be having a visible dark skin tone which also had pimples and pigmentation.

The girls were visibly depressed about how they looked; the guys could not fathom the courage to go and speak to a fair-skinned girl. Their gloomy faces clearly showed their despair and insecurity. Then they got introduced to the holy grail “Roop Amrit” which they used for 60 days as advised by their friends and well-wishers.

The use of the product not only alleviated them from the scourge of having a darker skin tone but also made their features attractive. They were now ready for the world- girls finding their due in society with increased stares from guys, the bully colleagues dying of jealousy, and the girls equipped with the worldly confidence they deserved. The guys had girls asking for their numbers and their social standing being at par with the elite. All this was possible in 60 days and for just Rs. 1999/-. One could only be a loser to miss this opportunity.

The Ad in my opinion was racist and discriminatory. It carried the undertones of disgust and xenophobia towards darker-skinned people. It equated dark skin as unattractive and fair skin as beautiful. It wanted to tap into the obsession with the fair skin of the Indian masses.

Who is to blame for this notion of only fair is beautiful? Why do Indian females obsessively want a fair-skinned baby? Is the media to blame for propagating the discrimination? Or they are showing what society wants to see or it is the other way around?

Well, I too got influenced by the ad. I loved field sports which meant I was mostly outdoors and there was no concept of sunscreens. I was thus a tanned brown-skinned guy who often got taunts for my dark skin resembling the African natives or people from southern states. Most of the people I knew valued fair skin over dark and dark-skinned people were looked down upon as worthless ugly creatures. The society at large is still the same.

After looking at the ad, I thought it was my chance to transform my looks and be the fair-skinned guy that society valued. Thankfully, I had no money to buy the product and by the time I had money to buy such products, I had become wise to understand the evil behind the ads.

Earlier, for me, to qualify to be beautiful one needed to be fair. I learned to appreciate beauty beyond skin tones after I traveled to different places. The prejudice and bias that my society ingrained in me over the years took some time to go. When I saw people from different regions of India, I realized that there was beauty in all features typical of regions.

I hope that the younger generation ward off this obsession and become aware of the inclusive concept of beauty and does not think with filters. I also hope that products like the one mentioned above are boycotted for spreading xenophobia and insularity toward different-looking people. We can only grow to a limit with prejudices and biases. With an open mind, we can grow boundless. We should celebrate all colours. Shalimar Paints did a wonderful ad campaign that resonates with the message- “Har Rang Khoobsurat”.

This topic deserves a full post. I will do it some day.

Learnings of the Day

Defenses to Influences of Authority

I am currently reading “Influence” by Robert Cialdini. Today the key idea learned was how to defend yourself from influences of Authoritativeness.

The first question to ask is whether the Authority is really an expert. If a person representing a position of authority is not himself an expert we should be wary of their pitch.

Do you remember Sachin Tendulkar in the ads for MRF Tyres? Sure, he used Bats with labels of MRF which was a promotional service he gave to MRF which paid him millions. But does he really know anything about the tyres that they make? He is used as an authority to influence people that MRF can be trusted just as he can be trusted for his batting.

It doesn’t make sense to perceive that MRF is equally reliable as Sachin is for the Indian cricket team. If a non-celebrity had endorsed the same product (with no change to quality), would people still believe MRF’s claim? Of course not. So, the point is that celebrity-endorsed products should not be blindly chosen over the ones that do not hire them for their promotion.

Now coming back to the point, then who do we trust to buy our tyres if we have no idea which brand is the best? The answer is to get advice from the people who use them a lot- Drivers, Puncture shops, or Tyre repair shops. They would be the ones who can actually give you an idea of the durable and superior quality tyres.

I recently started cycling in my neighborhood. I had to buy a night light to be installed on my bike for night rides. I went on Amazon and saw a few products, but I was sceptical about which one to buy as products ranged between Rs. 200-2000. I was confused about how to finalize a product. I remembered that I had become a member of a cycling group in my area. I contacted the admin and the most active guy from the group. He shared the link to a product. I bought it right away. It came out to be a solid product. I blindly followed the Authority but it was a wise decision as it came from an expert and a keen person. I used the Authority principle to my advantage.

So, we should engage this principle for other purchases that we have to make- not blindly following the ads but rather searching for experts who can guide us.

Homework for life

Found no parking around Gallaria Market even after 4 rounds around the block. Then saw the Club opposite which had ample parking, only that it had entry for members. Felt I should utilize the Authority principle. Went straight and parked. No questions asked. Problem solved. Face the fear of Rejection. It pays to face it.

Exercise

Strength: Back Day.

4 sets of Machine Rowing. 4 sets of Lat pulldowns. 4 sets of Rack pulls. 2 sets of Pull-ups.

4 sets of Seated Calf Raise. 3 sets of Tibialis Raises

Rehab: McGill Big 3 (1 set each). Lock Big 3 (1 set each).

Cardio:  Running

Zone 2-3 Training: 0 mins. For the week 91 mins. Last week 95 mins. Target 180 mins for the week.

Anything I like to share/ Habit Tracker

Clean for 121 days.



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