Let Kindness be
your North Star
In life, the
concept of kindness is more important than success, money, fame, and power.
Often, we forget to be kind and become selfish, rude, and harsh on others to
achieve the latter.
I have noticed
that whenever things don’t happen as I feel they should I get unkind. I get
unkind to my driver for not doing a thing a particular way, a motorist gets my
wrath for behaving like a dick on the road, and a subordinate may get shouted
at for acting smart or disobedient. It is moments when I get irritated or
frustrated that I get unkind to people.
We get unkind in
our small talk toward our colleagues, bosses, and subordinate. We become unkind
to our partners by not apologizing when we should. It is the emotion that is
easy to give but difficult to accept.
Being kind is a
conscious choice. It is not easy to not pass a slur at someone driving rashly.
It is not easy to not get angry when someone gets rude to you. But it is
important to know where the other person is coming from. If someone is
aggressive in his tone towards you, you may have not acted in the way they
expected from you. But by picking up a fight we reinforce their belief that you
are at fault. It only leads to a deadlock.
In the book
Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, Siddhartha is faced with the anger and wrath of his
young son who doesn’t want to live with him. Siddhartha is kind, but he suffers
from the torment of his son. He chooses to be kind but suffers. He is a sage
who knows the importance of being kind and is ready to suffer than punish his
son.
For mere mortals
like us, we can choose to not suffer just for the sake of being kind. We can
find an alternative to the situation. But being kind in our approach and not
becoming embroiled with destructive emotions like anger and hate.
So, the next time
you feel disgust and anger towards someone, remember, to choose the tough
choice- kindness, over other easier but inferior choices. If all of us choose
kindness, we can remove a lot of suffering from the world.
Learnings of the
Day
Authority through Building Trust First
I am currently reading “Influence” by Robert Cialdini.
Today the key idea learned was how to wield influence by first generating
trust.
For a business, if
a customer comes and says that the competitor is providing a cheaper product
tell them that Yes! the rates may be better there but we are providing quality
assurance. We are charging for what our products are- uncompromised quality.
In an interview,
if you are faced with a situation where you do not have the knowledge of the
subject, it can be stated openly that you do not know this aspect but that you are a
quick learner and will perform as expected shortly.
A salesperson can
say that yes, the competitor is good or even better in these aspects but then go on to show how his product is good. Now that the customer trusts the salesperson for his openness, he
may push the aspects which may not even be true about his product. The customer
having increased trust in the salesperson may blindly believe him.
I am reminded of a
movie named “Pursuit of Happiness” in which Will Smith goes for an interview
and when asked about the technical stuff related to the job, he flunks all of
them. He then asserts confidently that he may currently not know this stuff but
he will pick up everything in a flash and even be great at it. It shows acceptance of his current knowledge and determination that it is not a thing
that he cannot excel at. The interviewer is firstly impressed by the honesty
which builds trust and then by the confidence that ultimately influences him to
hire Will.
Homework for life
Heard the great
news of the permanent commission of Daljit in the Airforce. He got what he
wanted. Stable and easy life to follow. Uncertainty goes. He can enjoy Golf,
Fauji life, and of course Pension. Great for the family. He deserves it.
Realized that stability and certainty are important aspects of life. Happy and
proud of him.
Exercise
Strength: Rest
Day.
Needed to rest badly as my body had become stiff after 6 days of Gym and Running. It is stiff from many years of workouts and no stretching. The mobility is badly compromised. Went to Dr. Amit at Gurgaon for adjustment. Pohap attended to my assessment.
He stated that I have a stiff hip area which is affecting the Lumber area thus causing pain in my lower back. he said that I have tight Hamstrings with a tight Iliopsoas muscle and restricted hip internal rotation which may be causing the Hip impingement pain. I need to do proper hip mobilization to squat better and get pain-free from Hip impingement. He showed 3-4 Hip opening exercises.
Frog pose with widened knees and foot placed outwards. Seated Leg Split forward bend holds. Legs up against wall with ankle flexion. Bend legs in lying position moved to sides. Iliopsoas presses.
Rehab: Lock Big 3 at home.
Cardio: Running
Zone 2-3 Training: 0 mins. For the week 91 mins.
Last week 95 mins. Target 180 mins for the week. I will go to Sanjay Vann in
the morning and do trail running. Try to complete the challenge tomorrow itself
which may be a little challenging.
Anything I like to
share/ Habit Tracker
Clean for 120 days. Yay 4 months.
Weight today: 87.45 Kg. Target weight 85.40 Kg by 31.05.23.
Pic of the Day
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| Nusa Penida, Bali. |
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